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Ma – aaj is Independence Day peh, phir se teri yaad aayi hai,

Who subah kitni kush si hoti thi,

Jab 15th Aug ke awsar par Ma hamen ujale dress phanati thi,

Haath main Jhanda de ke, Jan- Gana- Man sunati thi,

Shaan se sina choda karke hum sab ko puchkarti thi,

Aur  hamari bhakti ki dhun puri society main gunja karti thi,

Ghar aa kar garama garam pudi-jalebi khilati thi,

Ma – Aaj woh gujra pal phir se ched gaya mujhko,

Ki aaj Independence Day peh, phir se teri yaad aayi hai…..

Vande Matram!! Ma Tujhe Salaam!!

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Love Marriage ya Arranged Marriage!

My Blog on Love Marriage ya Arrange Marriage, from the eye-glasses of a girl. While you read on, you will realize that the REAL debate is rather dating life ya married life?

Love Marriage ya Arranged Marriage debate is similar to the chicken or the egg dilemma of “which came first, the chicken or the egg”? No one has been able to come to the conclusion yet but we will certainly give a try to bring some logical element in this blog topic. But before we get into this “bermuda triangle” let’s have some definitions in place (assuming that I have consensus on these definition from all the readers)

1. Love: Simultaneous chemical reactions inside two human beings or reactants in their brain and heart, which are usually spontaneous

2. Arranged: Independent, nonreactive family of chemical agents. Subjects gradually become spontaneous to the chemical agent called love

3. Pre-marriage phase: Also, called as courtship period or the dating period. It’s applicable for the both love marriage as well as arranged marriage.

4. Marriage: An outcome of all the interactions which creates irreversible impact from the current state in the form of marriage contract 😉

If you are in love and going for marriage, then the next state would be love getting arranged for the survival of the contract and if you going for Arranged marriage then the arrangement of love would be done, which would be again for the sake of survival of the contract(read marriage).

Now moving in to the debate, in both the pre-stage of Love marriage and Arranged marriage; the real love-filled emotions outflow and outburst happens in the pre-marriage phase. Isn’t it a true fact? In both the cases, the phone bills shoots up, travel plans hits the pocket of the guy, pampering the fairer sex with gifts becomes binding, in-laws are so cool, inviting, approachable, loveable+1 and the list goes on and on. Well, the insight is that – visible symptoms are almost same in both the cases, only the degree and the time-duration of occurrences varies.

Oh yes, the pre-states of any marriage is so very fun filled, curiosity led, desire driven, adrenaline rush happens at the speed of 4X and off course it’s expense filled too 😉 So does this flow of events change? Yes, but when do they change their course? Hmm it changes after marriage, right? Eureka!! Yes, the game changing event is “marriage”!!

Before marriage, all the dating partners presents flower bouquets and post marriage it starts reducing to a mere bunch, followed by solo silver foil plated rose strand and ultimately ends up being a rare event. In-laws who were always like a sea-line which is so far yet so near suddenly turn into the sea-beach which is always near despite of being far 😉

Ok, now since all us are agreeing to the suggested hypothesis 🙂 let’s come to the conclusion. Yes, the dilemma of girl’s life decision should be dating life ya married life? Till the time a girl is inaccessible or not available on 24*7 basis, all 365 days, she continues to be desirable. For a girl, Pre-marriage is all about the guy and post-marriage is not just about the guy, but majorly about the all lawfully related ones, his family’s traditions, beliefs, practices, food eating habits, waking up patterns, and the list is really long.

Now let’s take a closer look at the guy, earlier you always saw him as a well dressed-up Mr. Perfect, and after marriage all of a sudden you will spot him roaming with uncombed hair in his loose pajamas with a tooth-brush in mouth 😀 And then a dream girl inside you will scream, where my prince charming has gone!

So, hopefully we are now agreeing that the real debate is dating life ya married life 🙂

After such a real life drama filled blog, being a happily married woman myself, it’s my moral duty to inspire many more who are planning to get married. Well, marriage is like a tree – lifelong commitment, which would flourish with plentiful of water which is time, air which is love and manure is the pampering which keeps the wow factor of the marriage alive. Keep the aura around the tree always alive and you will reap the fruits. And remember our Indian dialogue “Chand main bhi daag hota hai” heheh It’s a bit sour but a truth!

It’s your life; take the plunge only when you are convinced and ride the enjoyable married boat on mutual terms!

Cheers!

Note: This blog is inspired by the tv show of Sony Entertainment team. You can follow the show at https://www.facebook.com/LoveYaArrange

 

It’s about those few, whom we love – Jindagi Na Milegi Doobara!           

Stop. Think. Express. Live Life.

 

 

 

The special ones, whom we love from our soul irrespective of relationship coordinates. 

Whenever there is a mishap in our surroundings or a climatic scare like tsunami etc, we feel like stopping  our brain nerves and chose to even give a thought that “this can happen with me too!!” 

 All I want to convey to everyone is that these relationships are the most valuable assets of your life. Go ahead, admit it, exchange emotions and then you would feel the real happiness. Believe me, the feeling is magical. 

Have you ever expressed any of these emotions ? If not, trust these written words and express your love today because no one can assure a tomorrow…..  

 “Papa, I love you a lot!” 

“You are my most prized friend J I am privileged to have u in my gang J” 

“Dearest and Loving Boss, I owe my success to you! Thanks for your mentoring and support!” 

“Bro, thanks for all the sacrifices that you have made for us. Love you forever!”  

My Dad, till date deeply loves his eldest brother who passed away many years back, BUT has a regret that he could never express his thankfulness to him. He never said “Bro, I love you. You mean the world to me”. Now, he is no more around to share this….. He still weeps when he remembers him and says “I wish…..” 

Don’t let this moment happen in your life ever, when you look back and say “I wish……”  

Recently I have lost the dearest one in my life – My “Mausi” (Mom’s eldest sister). She was very sweet and lovable. I really loved her and always expressed my emotions to her. Now, when I miss her, I look up in the sky and as always 🙂 . I am glad that I expressed all my love to her and possibly gifted her all her favorite items 🙂 

With the permission of my friend, I am sharing a wonderful note written by him to his Dad after which his parents drove down through two states all by themselves to meet his son – It’s magical, isn’t it?  

The experience goes like this – 

“ It was the very unusual occasion for anyone to introspect, office get together with lot of music and hoards of people around. Most of the people went away at 11:00 and few were there for company till the late hours. Music went from dance to gazals and thoughts started rolling. And from nowhere came the “BADI DARI” (Large sized Carpet). 

I never knew and imagined that this meant so much and had a very deep rooted meaning. 

Many years back, during summer holidays, it was a family rule to have the daily noon nap together. There used to be one single cooler in the government nursing quarters, where we stayed for most of our life. I used to curse my father for forcing us to sleep in afternoon and when I do it with my daughter today, it makes all the sense. 

I am working in a MNC currently and hardly get time for my wife and kid leave alone parents who are still staying at Betul, a low key town in MP. Giving PR and showing love has never been one of my strengths. I hardly call my parents and it makes them to believe that they are not on my priority list any more. Nothing can be far from reality than this notion. 

The idea is just to express in true Ranchod Singh Chanchad style that ‘ALL IS WELL’. ” 

I don’t want this blog to sound like a spiritual piece so I will write just one more line.

Go ahead and enjoy your life! While doing all this, remember to make your special ones feel really special.

Cheers!

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